Accepting Compliments ?? Yeah....

Today I realized that I can't take compliments.  Like... at all.  Its awkward and wierd.  I want to just let them know I'm not a great as they think I am.  I want to tell them they are wrong basically.  Guess what, they see something I don't see in myself.  Why can't I just say thank you and keep on keepin' on?

SO, I did a little reserach to find out why people really can't take compliments.  I want to share what I have found.  On one website it read, " If you're uncomfortable receiving compliments, it's likely that you discount compliments and thereby stop the compliments from being made by that person again. The ways of discounting a compliment include: suggesting that it was nothing or that someone else could have done it better, thinking that the person paying you a compliment must be after something from you, being embarrassed and blushing or giving a compliment in return, being sarcastic or insisting that the he or she doesn't mean it. Each of these ways of deflecting a compliment results in putting down both yourself and the giver of the compliment, so they're not actually very giving or kind responses. If you have these problems in relation to accepting compliments, try to see the motivation for discounting compliments in a different light:

• Modesty: If you think that you're being modest by deflecting a compliment, think again. Modesty is a virtue, provided it isn't taken to an extreme; like any other trait, it has to exist in moderation. Modesty becomes a noose around your neck when it cripples your style and causes you to overlook what you're good at and the skills that define you. If you feel you need to compare yourself to someone who is always going to be "better" than you, then it's time to stop the comparisons, lower the bar of modesty and start respecting the good things about yourself a whole lot more.
• Distrust: If you discount a compliment because you lack trust in the motivations of the giver, then you're being aggressive or hostile. You're immediately assuming that this person is being sycophantic and is weaseling their way into your good books just for their own purposes. While there is a possibility from time to time that an occasional person might be telling a white lie, most people are genuine about giving compliments and deciding on whether or not someone is trustworthy on the basis of compliments is a daft approach to life.
• Trying to match the compliment: If you feel obliged to give a compliment in return for a compliment, it's likely that you're a people pleaser and that you're trying to self-efface by batting back the compliment. If you think "I can't keep this compliment, they deserve it more than me!" and immediately scramble to bat it back to them, then it's possible you're denying the beauty of the compliment you earned based on your own behavior and way of being.

This makes me think that I have issues with modesty.  I don't want any 'light' shining on me.  I want people to notice the work I have done or am doing and then go on.  Maybe even a little, great job or something.  BUT, compliments that are deeper than that make me act like a wierdo.  I don't know how to respond other than trying to make sure nothing I am doing seems good.  I can even go so far as to say that the way I handle ta compliment will discourage anyone from making them again.  It's rather sad.

So, I am going to continue on and be sure that when it's time to accept a compliment I respond positively and that I am grateful for the gift/talent that God gave me to be used where I am in life right now.

Blessings,
Stacey